Cherish Your Loved Ones

Today is a day I know all too well.

A day like any other day. You smile, you eat, you breath in and out. Then it happens. In an instance.

Today my close friend’s best friend’s grandfather passed away. We dropped our plans and rushed to the family’s side to offer our condolences and care. Arriving at the home of a family I did not truly know, it reminded me how very real this same situation was for me just under a month ago.

My grandfather passed away suddenly and turned our world upside down. The only true comfort we had in moving forward was knowing he was right with God and he was free of pain. It did made things easier, but it never takes all the pain away.

Adapting and finding the new normal after a loved one passes away can be the hardest thing to find. To find that balance. Sitting in that house, with people bringing food and love, was all too familiar.

Above the hurt, the sadness, and memory flooding and rushing back to mind from losing my beautiful grandfather, like this family did today, I was reminded that God is good and can give peace that surpasses understanding.

In the same token, I was reminded just how precious and short life is. You never truly know when a phone call can change your life in a mere instance.

So please, for the sake of those unable to hug their loved ones, for the ones that seldom visit their family, but for your sake, cherish your loved ones and your family.

Tell them you love them all the time. Get off your phone if you’re supposed to be spending time with them. And love them. Because you never know when your time is up.

But. Through it all. Know that when that time does come, you are not alone. A wonderful counselor named Jesus will be by your side if you let him.

Hug the ones you love today. Or call. Or write. Do something.
Please. Time is precious.

Show love, and be blessed.


Things to Stop Doing to Yourself: Part 1

There are a lot of things that hurt us in life, yet we continue to do them, sometimes out of habit, obligations, or mere comfort in the known. But I want to encourage you today, and myself, that there are some things in our life that we can change, and ultimately, make our life a little brighter step by step.

  1. Stop trying to buy happiness. Many times we look through windows ad desire things that are expensive and have associated worth with them. But the truth is, the true things that genuinely and lastingly satisfy us are completely free, without price tags — love, laughter, and working on our passions. 
  2. Stop holding grudges. Living with hate in your heart doesn’t really hurt the other person…it hurts you! They go on with live while resentment and bitterness take root in your heart. We are meant to live with full hearts of love! Forgiveness is really for us, not the person who hurt us. Forgiveness liberates you to move on and find fullness of life again, giving room for happiness since Mr. Grudge moved out 😉
  3. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs. There is no reason for that.
  4. Stop being afraid to make a mistake. Those who never make a mistake are never truly living or trying at anything, thus living a unrewarding, familiar life of average — it that! It is only a failure is you fail to learn from it; if some knowledge or experience is gained, then count yourself blessed because it did not keep you down. Get back up, because even Thomas Edison didn’t invent the lightbulb the first, or twentieth time. Be resilient. 
  5. Stop being idle. Ever heard the phrase, “An idle mind is the devil’s playground?”  Well it’s true. If you think too much, you can create a problem that wasn’t even there to begin with. Progress needs to be made. In real time, with real situations, not with thoughts that run wild in the negative. 

I hope you enjoyed these tips. Throughout the coming weeks I will continue with more installments of “Things to Stop Doing to Yourself.” More than any of it, I hope you saw some things you can improve on, since these are speaking from experience, some already learned, others I am still learning. 

And as always, be blessed.