Things to Stop Doing to Yourself: Part 4

I hope that the previous Things to Stop Doing to Yourself Part 1, 2, and 3 were enjoyable! But I want to add ANOTHER installment. Yeah, yeah, you might be thinking, “holy cow another one,” but they are too good not to share! Here it goes!

  1. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen. Focus on what you do want to happen. Positive thinking is at the core of all great success stories. If you wake up anticipating something good to happen, more than likely, even if small, something good will come to light.
  2. Stop worrying so much. Worry does nothing but add more stress to the current stress load. Thinking about all the worry will strip you from the good right in front of you. Honestly, will it really matter a year from now? If no, stop sweating it and take your mind on positive.
  3. Stop blaming others for your troubles. The extent to which you achieve is proportionate to the extent you take responsibility for yourself. When you blame others, you deny responsibility. Doing that gives others power over that area in your life. 
  4. Stop trying to make things perfect. The only true perfection is God and we are most definitely not Him. If you critique every work, you’ll waste your life away. And furthermore, the real world does not reward perfectionists, but instead those who get things done. 
  5. Stop running from your problems. Face them! Of course they won’t be easy. Great victories don’t come from every battle being easy. And we’re not supposed to be able to solve every problem instantly; that’s not how we’re designed. Besides, struggles allow us to learn, grow, adapt, mature, and become more fully who we are meant to be. Though a hard task, facing your problems, your rewards will be better than all those problems. 

 

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Things to Stop Doing to Yourself: Part 3

That’s right! Another installment of Things to Stop Doing to Yourself. Hope you enjoy!

  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. Life is too short to waste your time with people who suck all the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they will make room; you wouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never insist on spending time with people who continuously look over your worth or don’t put value on you. 
  2. Stop lying to yourself. You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we take is to be honest with ourselves. Think of it as The Road Less Traveled. 
  3. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. You are extremely unique, so stop trying to copy and morph yourself into someone else or something you’re not. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself. 
  4. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. We may end up falling for the wrong person or get emotional about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, but in all that happens, mistakes make us better. We learn, we grow, and we more fully develop into the person we are meant to be. Your mistakes do not define you. 
  5. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. If you’re not happy with yourself, you won’t be happy otherwise. Don’t look to people for happiness; happiness comes from within, not man. You need stability inside before you can share it with someone else. 

Things to Stop Doing to Yourself: Part 2

Just a few days ago I wrote about “Things to Stop Doing to Yourself: Part 2” and I wanted to write the next installment. There are things in life that you cannot spare for yourself. It is vital to personal and mental health by taking care of yourself. Here are some more things to do just that.

  1. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. Relationships are meant to be chosen wisely, not flippantly or haphazardly. It is truly better to be alone than to be in bad company. 1 Corinthians 15:33 says “bad company corrupts good character.” There’s no need to rush. With friendships. And in romance. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely. I have been single for the past 1 and a half, only having previously one boyfriend. Truly, it has been the best time waiting in singleness. Better wait.
  2. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. This is something I actually am working on myself. I have had friendships fall out and it seems like it won’t work positively again. BUT. There is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. Most importantly, some will bring out the best in you. Trust me, you met that person for a reason, either as a lesson, or a blessing.
  3. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. Take bliss in the little things, because one day you will look back and see that they were the big things. Every foundation starts with a small, tightly packed base. These are those small things. Do not overlook them. The best part of your life will be the small, nameless moments that you cannot buy.
  4. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. Doing so is completely impossible, and you will tire yourself constantly trying to do so; it will burn you out. But making ONE person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but THEIR, IMPORTANT world. So narrow your focus.
  5. Stop being ungrateful. No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing. You are living, breathing, and reading. You are more blessed than nearly half the world. Think about that, and let that sink in.

I hope this offered some encouragement to your day. Please try to lighten your load, and take care of yourself. Once you do, I promise life will be brighter.

As always, be blessed.

Things to Stop Doing to Yourself: Part 1

There are a lot of things that hurt us in life, yet we continue to do them, sometimes out of habit, obligations, or mere comfort in the known. But I want to encourage you today, and myself, that there are some things in our life that we can change, and ultimately, make our life a little brighter step by step.

  1. Stop trying to buy happiness. Many times we look through windows ad desire things that are expensive and have associated worth with them. But the truth is, the true things that genuinely and lastingly satisfy us are completely free, without price tags — love, laughter, and working on our passions. 
  2. Stop holding grudges. Living with hate in your heart doesn’t really hurt the other person…it hurts you! They go on with live while resentment and bitterness take root in your heart. We are meant to live with full hearts of love! Forgiveness is really for us, not the person who hurt us. Forgiveness liberates you to move on and find fullness of life again, giving room for happiness since Mr. Grudge moved out 😉
  3. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs. There is no reason for that.
  4. Stop being afraid to make a mistake. Those who never make a mistake are never truly living or trying at anything, thus living a unrewarding, familiar life of average — it that! It is only a failure is you fail to learn from it; if some knowledge or experience is gained, then count yourself blessed because it did not keep you down. Get back up, because even Thomas Edison didn’t invent the lightbulb the first, or twentieth time. Be resilient. 
  5. Stop being idle. Ever heard the phrase, “An idle mind is the devil’s playground?”  Well it’s true. If you think too much, you can create a problem that wasn’t even there to begin with. Progress needs to be made. In real time, with real situations, not with thoughts that run wild in the negative. 

I hope you enjoyed these tips. Throughout the coming weeks I will continue with more installments of “Things to Stop Doing to Yourself.” More than any of it, I hope you saw some things you can improve on, since these are speaking from experience, some already learned, others I am still learning. 

And as always, be blessed.