Things to Stop Doing to Yourself: Part 3

That’s right! Another installment of Things to Stop Doing to Yourself. Hope you enjoy!

  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. Life is too short to waste your time with people who suck all the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they will make room; you wouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never insist on spending time with people who continuously look over your worth or don’t put value on you. 
  2. Stop lying to yourself. You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we take is to be honest with ourselves. Think of it as The Road Less Traveled. 
  3. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. You are extremely unique, so stop trying to copy and morph yourself into someone else or something you’re not. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself. 
  4. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. We may end up falling for the wrong person or get emotional about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, but in all that happens, mistakes make us better. We learn, we grow, and we more fully develop into the person we are meant to be. Your mistakes do not define you. 
  5. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. If you’re not happy with yourself, you won’t be happy otherwise. Don’t look to people for happiness; happiness comes from within, not man. You need stability inside before you can share it with someone else. 

Things to Stop Doing to Yourself: Part 2

Just a few days ago I wrote about “Things to Stop Doing to Yourself: Part 2” and I wanted to write the next installment. There are things in life that you cannot spare for yourself. It is vital to personal and mental health by taking care of yourself. Here are some more things to do just that.

  1. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. Relationships are meant to be chosen wisely, not flippantly or haphazardly. It is truly better to be alone than to be in bad company. 1 Corinthians 15:33 says “bad company corrupts good character.” There’s no need to rush. With friendships. And in romance. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely. I have been single for the past 1 and a half, only having previously one boyfriend. Truly, it has been the best time waiting in singleness. Better wait.
  2. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work. This is something I actually am working on myself. I have had friendships fall out and it seems like it won’t work positively again. BUT. There is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you and some will teach you. Most importantly, some will bring out the best in you. Trust me, you met that person for a reason, either as a lesson, or a blessing.
  3. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. Take bliss in the little things, because one day you will look back and see that they were the big things. Every foundation starts with a small, tightly packed base. These are those small things. Do not overlook them. The best part of your life will be the small, nameless moments that you cannot buy.
  4. Stop trying to be everything to everyone. Doing so is completely impossible, and you will tire yourself constantly trying to do so; it will burn you out. But making ONE person smile CAN change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but THEIR, IMPORTANT world. So narrow your focus.
  5. Stop being ungrateful. No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for theirs. Instead of thinking what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing. You are living, breathing, and reading. You are more blessed than nearly half the world. Think about that, and let that sink in.

I hope this offered some encouragement to your day. Please try to lighten your load, and take care of yourself. Once you do, I promise life will be brighter.

As always, be blessed.

Persuasive Communication: You Know You Want to Read This…

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It’s everywhere and as consumers not only do we use it, we are susceptible it too.

Now when considering persuasive communication, the professionals think of the biggest factors in implement into the message so that we receive it, and then buy into it. A number of factors are involved, and here are some more in depth:

Audience Analysis

It is essential as the basis for persuasive communication to take a look at the audience characteristics such as beliefs, attitudes, values, concerns, and lifestyles. Knowing those things helps the communicators tailor the message to lead into a cause of action. Tools that help them distinguish this are: demographics (age, gender, ethnicity, education, etc.) and psychographics (lifestyle, values, attitudes, etc.).

Appeals to Self-Interest

People become involved in issues or pay attention to messages that appeal to their psychological, economic, or situational needs. Psychologist Abraham Maslow and his theory about the Hierarchy of Needs ring so true in persuasive and the intertwining of emotions. The levels move from lowest to highest in importance.

  1. Basic needs: food, water, shelter

    Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

    Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs

  2. Security: jobs, homes, health
  3. Belonging: association with others, organizations
  4. Love: humans have a need to be loved and to love others
  5. Self Actualization: self worth


Recent studies have found that repetition and reiteration helps people remember.

Recent studies have found that repetition and reiteration helps people remember.

Recent studies have found that repetition and reiteration helps people remember.

Recent studies have found that repetition and reiteration helps people remember.

Get the picture yet? People need to be reminded of the message skillfully enough for them to remember your message long after you’re gone. Let’s play a game…name that business!

“Buhduh duhduhduh I’m lovin’ it!”

Yup, McDonalds

Ok, what about a little harder…

“Drop it like it’s hoootttt, drop it like it’s hot!”

Sun Drop!! New, but still good.

And you here about those tunes and jingles through commercials with reinforcement and the message they want you to hear.

So, of all of the factors, personally I feel like these are the most important to be effective in the persuasive message. How you put them to use and see how they play in your life!

What do you feel are the most important factors? I would love to hear your thoughts. Have a wonderful day!