Things to Stop Doing to Yourself: Part 3

That’s right! Another installment of Things to Stop Doing to Yourself. Hope you enjoy!

  1. Stop spending time with the wrong people. Life is too short to waste your time with people who suck all the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they will make room; you wouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never insist on spending time with people who continuously look over your worth or don’t put value on you. 
  2. Stop lying to yourself. You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the first and most difficult chance we take is to be honest with ourselves. Think of it as The Road Less Traveled. 
  3. Stop trying to be someone you’re not. You are extremely unique, so stop trying to copy and morph yourself into someone else or something you’re not. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself. 
  4. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. We may end up falling for the wrong person or get emotional about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, but in all that happens, mistakes make us better. We learn, we grow, and we more fully develop into the person we are meant to be. Your mistakes do not define you. 
  5. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. If you’re not happy with yourself, you won’t be happy otherwise. Don’t look to people for happiness; happiness comes from within, not man. You need stability inside before you can share it with someone else. 

Things to Stop Doing to Yourself: Part 1

There are a lot of things that hurt us in life, yet we continue to do them, sometimes out of habit, obligations, or mere comfort in the known. But I want to encourage you today, and myself, that there are some things in our life that we can change, and ultimately, make our life a little brighter step by step.

  1. Stop trying to buy happiness. Many times we look through windows ad desire things that are expensive and have associated worth with them. But the truth is, the true things that genuinely and lastingly satisfy us are completely free, without price tags — love, laughter, and working on our passions. 
  2. Stop holding grudges. Living with hate in your heart doesn’t really hurt the other person…it hurts you! They go on with live while resentment and bitterness take root in your heart. We are meant to live with full hearts of love! Forgiveness is really for us, not the person who hurt us. Forgiveness liberates you to move on and find fullness of life again, giving room for happiness since Mr. Grudge moved out 😉
  3. Stop letting others bring you down to their level. Refuse to lower your standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs. There is no reason for that.
  4. Stop being afraid to make a mistake. Those who never make a mistake are never truly living or trying at anything, thus living a unrewarding, familiar life of average — it that! It is only a failure is you fail to learn from it; if some knowledge or experience is gained, then count yourself blessed because it did not keep you down. Get back up, because even Thomas Edison didn’t invent the lightbulb the first, or twentieth time. Be resilient. 
  5. Stop being idle. Ever heard the phrase, “An idle mind is the devil’s playground?”  Well it’s true. If you think too much, you can create a problem that wasn’t even there to begin with. Progress needs to be made. In real time, with real situations, not with thoughts that run wild in the negative. 

I hope you enjoyed these tips. Throughout the coming weeks I will continue with more installments of “Things to Stop Doing to Yourself.” More than any of it, I hope you saw some things you can improve on, since these are speaking from experience, some already learned, others I am still learning. 

And as always, be blessed. 

Cupid’s Favorite Day

As Valentines Day approaches, what do you think of?

Cheesy valentines with some clipart? Biting into Russian Roulette-style imageschocolate candies? Bundles of flower bouquets in all sizes? That special someone showing you their care and affection? Or are you flying solo this Valentines Day, either content, or hoping to someone would surprise you?

This year, like most years, I am part of the singles club. My dad will most likely send me some flowers and say he’s my first valentine and say no man will love me more in the world. Yes, dad, that is true, but in the back of my mind, I still sometimes wonder when someone will come along.

However, that isn’t out of anxiety for feeling alone. Quite on the contrary in fact; I get to do whatever I want, free of having to plan around someone’s schedules. But as this holiday approaches, I keep one thing in mind that I would like to share…..

In relationships, I take WAITING over SETTLING any day of the week. 

Yes ladies and gents. I feel you don’t have to be in a relationship with someone all your life to feel whole. Your identity should be found in yourself, not in the “security” a relationship seemingly gives you. It’s not all bad, dating, that is. It’s great when done right, but personally, until the right one comes along, I don’t plan on dating just anyone.

Not just anyone deserves my heart, or yours for that matter! A heart should be protected. Don’t settle merely for someone who gives you attention, because that is fleeting! Wait for someone who indulges in your dreams, loves your passions, and wants to be your partner day in and day out, good or bad.

Wait for someone who will value every part of you, and only want the best for you. Too many times we settle because we get impatient; however, if memory serves me right, it times time, just like the process of a diamond forming. 

So this Valentines Day, instead of moping around, or wishing you were with someone else or someplace else, remember that the wait is worth it. You’re future someone will thank you for that.

As always, live life beautifully and live abundantly.